Moving to Los angeles

i will be going to court. and the paperwork begins. yay

drop off Wed. October 28

Tuesdays are usually days that we meet unless otherwise discussed, this tuesday i had a early morning Doctor's appt. and since my husband had the car until late that night i wouldn't be able to drive at night. Being 5 months pregnant i don't feel comfortable driving long distance alone in the car. Jonathan said Fine we could meet the following day. Of course an hour later he called to say he had changed his mind and that i needed to meet him that night or that he was going to fall back on only allowing Bella visit me on a strict every other Sunday thru Tuesday. Which again shows me his control issues. It was not possible to meet him Tuesday and with him already agreeing to meeting Wed. I said sorry i have to meet you Wed. Jon eventually stopped calling and texting in this case i took it as he agreed to meeting wed. We met Wed afternoon at 4:30 pm in kettleman.

Pick up October 23rd

The agreed day to meet was Friday. I called the night before with no reply from Jonathan. Next morning Jon calls to say Bella couldn't come with out reason but to say she was just with me. I pleaded with him explaining that this was the only time we could get the entire family to take the portraits. He called back moments later saying to meet him now. so i again had to jump when he said to. it seems like i have been doing a lot of that lately. i met him in Kettleman city at 11am friday morning.

Drop off Sunday October 18th

I picked up Bella at a Unscheduled time. which is fine because she does go to church with Jon or more likely Grandma Adams. Either way it is good they are getting her around other kids. Tuesday October 13th Jonathan contacted me to meet him Thursday. Once again Jon Manipulating the Mediation agreement for his benefit not following it. But if i get more time with Bella who am i to complain. Isabella stayed with me till the following Sunday. Jon completely fine with this at the time. At drop off I discussed Bella coming back to stay with me the following week because of family coming into town for family portraits. He agreed and she went home with dad.

Pick up

This agreement is crap. Jon never follows it but, expects me to be "consistent". so today we will meet at 1pm. i hope it is because she will be attending church this morning.

september 25- 29

My Aunt brought Bella over for a weekend at her grandma's I ended up having bella the entire time. My Mom likes to say Bella will stay with her but always expects me to take her home at night. which i love so Okay with that. It was a good weekend and good way to start my week. My daughter brings me so much joy. at the drop off jon wanted to meet tuesday night and since thats not in the agreement i set up the meeting place to be closer to my house. ( Jacks ranch) I am 15 weeks pregnant i can't be driving that far in the dark anymore. When i got there i let Jon know how i feel about everything. I need to know about doctor visits that he hasn't tole me about i need to know if she goes to school during the week and i expect a call when she is sick. I don't want to be in the dark anymore it's not fair to Bella or myself. Jon agreed strangely and we left happy.

Drop Off. 9-15-09

Drop off is always tuesdays before noon. Jon refused to text me and called more than 7 times in a row. He really is loosing power over me. Tuesday came around and he said he couldn't meet before 5. i said No deal the plan is before noon. i'll see you before noon or after 5 at a location closer to me. He called and left a message minutes later saying he will meet me at Noon in Kettleman. How he got out of work so fast i will never know.

When isabella and i did meet him he cornered me into talking to him. Things always get heated which is why i choose not to communicate with him on the phone or in person.
Note to self: ask Judge for Jon's email all needs to be reported through email.
The last Thing Jon said to me is that I need his permission for Bella to leave Fresno County, Nothing that is ordered on paper. So again I will have to wait to see what happens next Sunday.

Another thing Jon says he can't meet on Tuesdays any more But refuses to allow Bella to spend more time with me.

To be continued . . .

Pick up

Today i will pick Isabella up in Kettleman city. We will meet at 2:01. I'm not looking forward to having to see Jon today. My hope is when we go back to court we can have someone mediate the pick ups and drop offs. Today i needed this encouragement i hope that if you are in the midst of all this mess like i am that this will be an encouragement to you as well.

Romans 5:1-5 (New International Version)

Romans 5

Peace and Joy

1Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we[a]have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, 2through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in which we now stand. And we[b] rejoice in the hope of the glory of God. 3Not only so, but we[c] also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; 4perseverance, character; and character, hope. 5And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us.

text message battle.

Well after several text messages saying that it was my week with Isabella. Jon did agree to meet me tomorrow. But not at the time we are always to meet, he says without reason after 2pm. I explained that we agreed to meet always before noon but he stubbornly said Not before 2pm. At this point all i can do is document that he once again will not comply with the agreement. frustrating as that is, I will be spending time with my daughter tomorrow. and she will get to try on all her new clothes!!

Starting to document

I am starting this blog not only to help me keep account of my custody battle, but hopefully to help other mothers or fathers that may or are going through the same thing.

As of right now custody (mediation) agreement is as follows:

"Isabella shall remain with her father at all times except for every other week from Sunday morning till Tuesday Morning."

It began this way because i was living in Fresno for Bella to be closer to her father. Working and living in a one bedroom apt. I worked throughout the week and my days off were Sunday and Mondays. It made sense to me to keep Isabella at her fathers house where she had a room and all her toys. I saw her everyday but she slept at my house Sunday and Monday Nights. I only wanted Her to have the most comfortable arrangement as possible. Her father was quick to get the paperwork made up and me being trustworthy of him i agreed and signed.

Months went by and I lost a job and moved back to San Luis Obispo county. By doing this Jonathan saw it in his best interest not to allow Isabella to visit her Home town with me. He refused for one month. all of January and most of February i spent away from My daughter. Precious time that was taken from both of us. After several attempts and one trip to Fresno with law enforcement and i Got no where. it wasn't until Jon needed me to watch her because his mother was leaving the state that I got to have Bella back with me. it soon became I had to prove to Jonathan that i could be "consistent" with my time with Bella. I did whatever i had to do to have my daughter come visit with me. 48 hrs. is all we get every other week. It makes me sick that i can't change something i would have never of agreed to knowing that i would move back to SLO.

From the day i moved back to SLO in January of 09 it only makes sense for the agreement to change. I cant stop by to see her after work anymore, i cant take her to lunch on my lunch break and I cant have a unscheduled sleep over. I only have 48 hrs. Jonathan has no reason for not changing the agreement and seems uninterested in our daughter being with her mother.

It is now September 09 and i can't play by someone else's rules anymore. I will not be manipulated and controlled by Jonathan anymore. I refuse to have Our daughter dangled over my head. It is time for me to fight back and get the fair amount of time with our daughter again. I can't change that i moved back to SLO county this is where she was born and this is where i would like to raise her. i am hoping to get help from the court system.

On Sept. 11Th I let Jon know that Bella is scheduled to stay with me this next week Sunday to Tuesday. That The parent's birthdays are to be celebrated during the week of Isabella's stay with them. which means Not having her on the birthday which he would like to believe. Jonathan is planing on going against the agreement and keeping her this next week because his birthday is Monday the 14Th. This is not the first time he has kept her on one of my weeks ( 48 hrs.) because he felt he was in the control of that decision. we will see if she will be here on Sunday.

:-(